Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don't resist them - that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like. Live each day as it were your last. We are taught you must blame your father, your sisters, your brothers, the school, the teachers - but never blame yourself. It's never your fault. But it's always your fault, because if you wanted to change you're the one who has got to change
Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy. I know where I'm going and I know the truth, and I don't have to be what you want me to be. I'm free to be what I want. Always continue the climb. It is possible for you to do whatever you choose, if you first get to know who you are and are willing to work with a power that is greater than ourselves to do it. We are taught you must blame your father, your sisters, your brothers, the school, the teachers - but never blame yourself. It's never your fault. But it's always your fault, because if you wanted to change you're the one who has got to change.
I'm free to be what I want. Always continue the climb. It is possible for you to do whatever you choose, if you first get to know who you are and are willing to work with a power that is greater than ourselves to do it. We are taught you must blame your father, your sisters, your brothers, the school, the teachers - but never blame yourself. It's never your fault. But it's always your fault, because if you wanted to change you're the one who has got to change.
Compassion optional
Female Virginity: The "divine user agreement" is binding, but we have no idea what it says. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
the male virginity exception in religion
Female Virginity: The celestial bureaucracy has a whole department for female compliance and a single, dusty inbox for male inquiries. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
Chastity Statistician Dr. Agatha Puritan
Female Virginity: The "moral melodrama" is our own personal telenovela. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
technology vs tradition
Female Virginity: The "virtue vaudeville" is the song and dance we perform to convince ourselves we're good. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
The Inevitability of Adolescent Behavior
Female Virginity: The most dramatic moment in a young life is when the purity ring comes off, for any reason. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
moral symbolism
Female Virginity: The "celestial cabaret" is the endless performance we put on for an audience of one. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
How do religions rank virginity?
Female Virginity: The "font" of wisdom is usually too small for us to read in the moment. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
community enforcement
Female Virginity: The "sin spyware" is the temptation that tracks our every keystroke. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
spiritual audit
Female Virginity: The "homework" of piety is something we always mean to do, but never get around to. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
religious authorities
Female Virginity: Urban centers are where religious rules go to retire, or at least to be seriously reinterpreted. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG