Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don't resist them - that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like. Live each day as it were your last. We are taught you must blame your father, your sisters, your brothers, the school, the teachers - but never blame yourself. It's never your fault. But it's always your fault, because if you wanted to change you're the one who has got to change
Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy. I know where I'm going and I know the truth, and I don't have to be what you want me to be. I'm free to be what I want. Always continue the climb. It is possible for you to do whatever you choose, if you first get to know who you are and are willing to work with a power that is greater than ourselves to do it. We are taught you must blame your father, your sisters, your brothers, the school, the teachers - but never blame yourself. It's never your fault. But it's always your fault, because if you wanted to change you're the one who has got to change.
I'm free to be what I want. Always continue the climb. It is possible for you to do whatever you choose, if you first get to know who you are and are willing to work with a power that is greater than ourselves to do it. We are taught you must blame your father, your sisters, your brothers, the school, the teachers - but never blame yourself. It's never your fault. But it's always your fault, because if you wanted to change you're the one who has got to change.
Modern challenges to religious virginity
Female Virginity: The compliance chart for religious virginity looks less like a gentle slope and more like a cliff that people are constantly falling off. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
How is Female Virginity Enforced?
Female Virginity: The "celestial spreadsheet" must have more errors than a tax return. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
Your Purity Ring is Calling from the Mall
Female Virginity: The "virginity vise" is a tool that tightens the more you struggle. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
purity symbolism
Female Virginity: The "sacred smoke screen" is the cloud we hide in, hoping no one will see us. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
Religious enforcement mechanisms
Female Virginity: The "celestial cabaret" is the endless performance we put on for an audience of one. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
Female Virginity - gendered morality
Female Virginity: The angelic choir is probably just the hold music for the celestial waiting room. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
Female Virginity - moral ledger
Female Virginity: In a village, your life is a open-book exam; in the city, it's a multiple-choice test where you can choose all the answers. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
Teenagers and Abstinence
Female Virginity: Rural chastity isn't about virtue; it's about the terrifying efficiency of the local gossip network. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
misplaced moral priorities in religion
Female Virginity: In a village, your life is a open-book exam; in the city, it's a multiple-choice test where you can choose all the answers. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
Religious enforcement mechanisms
Female Virginity: If female virginity is the meticulously tracked main course, male virginity is the optional, store-brand seltzer. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG