Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don't resist them - that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like. Live each day as it were your last. We are taught you must blame your father, your sisters, your brothers, the school, the teachers - but never blame yourself. It's never your fault. But it's always your fault, because if you wanted to change you're the one who has got to change
Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy. I know where I'm going and I know the truth, and I don't have to be what you want me to be. I'm free to be what I want. Always continue the climb. It is possible for you to do whatever you choose, if you first get to know who you are and are willing to work with a power that is greater than ourselves to do it. We are taught you must blame your father, your sisters, your brothers, the school, the teachers - but never blame yourself. It's never your fault. But it's always your fault, because if you wanted to change you're the one who has got to change.
I'm free to be what I want. Always continue the climb. It is possible for you to do whatever you choose, if you first get to know who you are and are willing to work with a power that is greater than ourselves to do it. We are taught you must blame your father, your sisters, your brothers, the school, the teachers - but never blame yourself. It's never your fault. But it's always your fault, because if you wanted to change you're the one who has got to change.
abstinence programs
Female Virginity: Purity culture sold teenagers on the idea that their virginity was a precious gift, then seemed shocked when some decided to regift it. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
community enforcement
Female Virginity: If religious texts are the manufacturer's warranty, then human nature is the void-if-removed sticker. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
study on changing attitudes toward virginity
Female Virginity: The "sin shaman" is the friend who gives you bad advice with good intentions. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
religious ideals
Female Virginity: The "solemn vow" is the one we make when we're not in the situation we're vowing to avoid. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
Abstinence Programs
Female Virginity: The "moral maintenance crew" is on a permanent break. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
Female Virginity - religious morality
Female Virginity: Rural chastity isn't about virtue; it's about the terrifying efficiency of the local gossip network. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
Female Virginity - purity rings
Female Virginity: The "sinful snicker" is the quiet laugh we have at our own hypocrisy. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
Virginity in religious contexts
Female Virginity: Male virginity is treated less like a moral failing and more like a quirky hobby. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
Female Virginity - cultural enforcement
Female Virginity: The social performance of purity is often more important than the actual state of being. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
Purity Rings
Female Virginity: The "chastity cost" is calculated in missed opportunities. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG