Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don't resist them - that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like. Live each day as it were your last. We are taught you must blame your father, your sisters, your brothers, the school, the teachers - but never blame yourself. It's never your fault. But it's always your fault, because if you wanted to change you're the one who has got to change
Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy. I know where I'm going and I know the truth, and I don't have to be what you want me to be. I'm free to be what I want. Always continue the climb. It is possible for you to do whatever you choose, if you first get to know who you are and are willing to work with a power that is greater than ourselves to do it. We are taught you must blame your father, your sisters, your brothers, the school, the teachers - but never blame yourself. It's never your fault. But it's always your fault, because if you wanted to change you're the one who has got to change.
I'm free to be what I want. Always continue the climb. It is possible for you to do whatever you choose, if you first get to know who you are and are willing to work with a power that is greater than ourselves to do it. We are taught you must blame your father, your sisters, your brothers, the school, the teachers - but never blame yourself. It's never your fault. But it's always your fault, because if you wanted to change you're the one who has got to change.
sacred texts
Female Virginity: The only thing more relentless than divine judgment is the algorithmic "For You" page. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
family honor
Female Virginity: The assumption that God is on a coffee break is the foundational principle of most adolescent decision-making. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
Female Virginity - moral value
Female Virginity: Saint Peter's ledger must have more asterisks and footnotes than a legal textbook. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
Female Virginity - religious rankings
Female Virginity: The most sophisticated legal minds aren't in courtrooms; they're in bedrooms, constructing alibis. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
Modern Virginity
Female Virginity: The "virginity value" is a number we make up to feel better about our choices. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
Symbols are easier to wear than enforce
Female Virginity: The "sin safari" is a hunting trip where we are both the hunter and the prey. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
Virginity is theoretically sacred, but enforcement mechanisms vary
Female Virginity: The real "original sin" isn't disobedience; it's the bureaucratic mindset that decided to track this in the first place. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
Female Virginity - virginity policing
Female Virginity: The "moral firmware" is in desperate need of an update. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
chastity
Female Virginity: The "digital panopticon" that religious parents try to build will always be outsmarted by a teenager with a second, secret Instagram account. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
Cultural Enforcement of Virginity Norms
Female Virginity: The "multiple choice" of morality never has a clear right answer. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG