Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don't resist them - that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like. Live each day as it were your last. We are taught you must blame your father, your sisters, your brothers, the school, the teachers - but never blame yourself. It's never your fault. But it's always your fault, because if you wanted to change you're the one who has got to change
Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy. I know where I'm going and I know the truth, and I don't have to be what you want me to be. I'm free to be what I want. Always continue the climb. It is possible for you to do whatever you choose, if you first get to know who you are and are willing to work with a power that is greater than ourselves to do it. We are taught you must blame your father, your sisters, your brothers, the school, the teachers - but never blame yourself. It's never your fault. But it's always your fault, because if you wanted to change you're the one who has got to change.
I'm free to be what I want. Always continue the climb. It is possible for you to do whatever you choose, if you first get to know who you are and are willing to work with a power that is greater than ourselves to do it. We are taught you must blame your father, your sisters, your brothers, the school, the teachers - but never blame yourself. It's never your fault. But it's always your fault, because if you wanted to change you're the one who has got to change.
Teenagers and Abstinence
Female Virginity: The real miracle is that women haven't collectively invoiced the patriarchy for millennia of unpaid emotional and spiritual labor. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
Female Virginity - moral expectations
Female Virginity: The "purity pilgrimage" is a journey to a shrine that moves every time you get close. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
marriage market
Female Virginity: The "pious potion" is a mixture of hope, fear, and self-deception. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
Female Virginity - religious ideals
Female Virginity: We're all just trying to get a passing grade in a class we never signed up for. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
virginity as currency
Female Virginity: The "binding agreement" with God is the one we're most likely to renegotiate under duress. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
Female Virginity - divine compliance
Female Virginity: The "sin safari" is a hunting trip where we are both the hunter and the prey. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
Divine Compliance Consultants
Female Virginity: The "lock and key" analogy is the most telling Freudian slip in the history of moral teaching. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
Female Virginity - moral priorities
Female Virginity: If the angels are keeping track, they're doing it on a celestial Excel spreadsheet that keeps crashing. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
religious texts on virginity
Female Virginity: When the "virginity bubble" pops, the social fallout will make the 2008 financial crisis look like a minor inconvenience. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG
Female Virginity - divine compliance
Female Virginity: The patriarchy somehow convinced women that their greatest asset was something they were supposed to never use. -- Alan Nafzger https://bit.ly/3XgeTRG